Being teenager and growing older is not easy as it said. Being teenager means that you have to feel ready to face your problems on your own—it doesn’t matter if you feel really ready or not, the problems will still come to you. Growing older means you have to know the fact that in the end of the day, you are alone. There is no friends that you can rely one, no siblings, even your parents can’t help you. All of the pressure that comes from society, combine with feeling insecure because of social media, and completed with the problems that come one by one. Being teenager is not easy—then, it is not strange for us when we heard mental illness linked to teenager. Because the fact is, most of the teenagers might be feeling anxiety, stress, and depression among their stage of being teenager. The most difficult problem might be, when they pushed to be a succesfull human being in the future, but no one can understand how hard it is to reach it, while they do not have any support system. The result, most of them always feel that they are useless, negatvie person, and feeling insecure. So, it is not odd when teenager is the most population to have mental illness in this world because they might feel that their lives is already falling apart.
But, here, we are not going to tell about mental illness. We are going to know how to solve and minimalize the ugly truth about teenager, how we can achieve ourselves, and maintaning our mental health.
The first one, think that you are enough. If you feel that all of your achievement and goals are fell away, would you still feeling that you are okay? No, absolutely no. So, what would you need when everything is taking away from you? The best solution for this, that at some core you are enough. Just you as it. No loving bestfriend, no brilliant achievements, no passion—if you don’t have none of that, and you yourself is enough. Feel that you are enough. Take total responsibility for your life, your circumstances, and your power. It means, acknowledging that you have the personal power to shape your reality in the image that you want. Stay true to your values, live in authencity as much as you do, and to forgive yourself for your flaws while simultaneously striving to live whole-heartedly and be your best. It means, having your inner world be so solid that the outside chaos can’t disturb you.
Second, turn your bad feeling to a good feeling. That is common when the teenager feeling so stress, they also can have a bad feeling that might be disturb their entire day. Thus, you have to feel good about feeling bad. One thing that we are trying to believe is that negative emotions are bad. Jealousy, insecurity, doubt, paranoia. The idea of acceptance your negative feeling in order to pass it through you, that’s the point. But, sometimes it makes you stuck on those feelings because you are allowing the emotion to control you. There is a good tips for this, it is when you feel the negative emotion. Let’s say ‘insecurities’, then think of what that emotion would look like in physical represantation of it. And once that image clear, ask it ‘why are you here?’ Because, the point is, the feeling need to ebe understood. Understand the feeling, then feel it in positive way. For example, your anger for protecting you, your anxiety because there’s a lot of assigments that you have to do is for motivate you. The feeling of unworthiess is to make sure that you are deserve for better love. You must think that negative emotion is a misunderstood and you have to switch it by understand why it is there. The next step is feel what you rather want to feel.
Third, Value. Know your value as teenager, but also as human being. But before you know your value, you need to learn your positive resilience. Positive resilience means, your brain always focus to look the negatives and pick up your weakness’s because it is how you survive. Then, to call positive resilience-worth, you need to shift that focus to your strength, believe on yourself, be clear about our values. To get it practically, there are many ways. Take a moment to reflect on your strengths, or write some affirmations over and over to find a link between what you write down and how you affect it. One thing that you must absolutely do is to give yourself time. Time will heal you, because the universe has a perfect timing and God has a perfect timing as well.
Fourth, choose good habits and fundamental of your mental health. As teenager, there are many habits that you can choose to maintain your mental health. For example, eat healthy snack, hang out with your bestfriends, get plenty of sleep, study with plenty motivation, or even doing your make up. And the most important one, practice to self talk and meditation. Sometimes, it doesn’t work really well, but it is fine. Because the point is, to consistantly having a routine that implements your healthy habits, your lifestyle, and your mental health.
Fifth, Self-love talk. Sometimes, when you have anxiety or depression, you feel that there is sound in your head, telling you how bad you are. Thus, you started to hate yourself. But, there is a way to stop it. It is journaling. Write down everything that you feel, combine the negative thoughts in your head and the more you do it, the more you aware of what you were saying to yourself moment to moment. Then, change your self talk to reflected in the way that you wanted to feel about yourself.
The last one is, attract what you want to attract. It is based on how law of attraction works. It says, the negativity could be because you are putting out the negatives vebrations, so it can attract negative things to you. It is work the same with positivity. If you come out with your inner positivity there is no way negative things would come to you, because you just focus on positivity. The more you focus on it, the more you can achieve it easier.
Maintaining mental health when you are a teenager is difficult—we have to admit it. But, let’s just say, just do it. No matter what, just do it for your inner personality and your circumstances of self love. Time and your attitude of it, will heal you.