Do you invest to much value into words added by strangers? No matter what you do or say, how you act, or the decisions you make, people will always have an opinion of you. And if you let them get to you, you’ll allow other people’s opinions to not only hurt you, but often times define you. But if you could stop caring about what other thought, what would happen then? The possibilities are endless. But one thing’s for certain, you would feel a lot lighter and happier. So here are six ways to stop caring about what other people think of you.
- Remember! Not everyone cares.
All around you, people have enough to occupy their minds, they’re way too busy thinking about their families, work, and whatever else to form a detailed opinion about you. It may sound harsh, but the idea of not having all eyes on you feels liberating, doesn’t it?
- Ask yourself “Who do you wanna be?”
The only opinion that should matter to you is yours. The value of another person’s opinion should correlate with the nature of your relationship to that person. By allowing others opinions to influence and dominate your life, you’re handing them your power and agency. If you can relate to this, ask yourslef, what do you want? And what do you like? Are you making these choices solely to impress others? Even your decisions, through this lens, will help you become self-assured
- Accept your flaws.
When you’re more concerned about someone’s percepion of you, it becomes damaging to your self-esteem and confidence. Some negative perceptions of ourselves have been ingrained into our subconscious, since childhood. One way to break free from these shackles is self-acceptance. Self-acceptance is a journey to embrace all of the facets within yourself, unconditionally. The journey can be difficult as it requires you to trapeze along the fine line of acceptance and complacency. It serves as a building block for self-esteem and personal improvement.
- Be selective about the things you care about.
the key to a happy life is to be selective about the things you care about. Spending your time fretting over the most inane things, makes you lose focus on what really matters.
- everyone will like you.
In life, some people will like you and others might not, and thats okay. Your uniqueness and the qualities that you possess make you who you are. Its no less than a challenge. Its is no easy feat facing someone who has negative views of you. But most of the time, tha’s their mindset, and their mindset only, it has nothing to do with you. There will be eople who will accept all of you, people who will be supportive and kind, these are the people who deserve to walk with you.
- Take on the challenges.
Are you afraind of making mistakes? Do you have a knack for cognitive distortions and negative patterns of thinking? It’s an evolutionary trait that was formed to keep your ancestors from danger. However, it often keeps you from going after the things you want in life. You worry about ending up looking like a fool because of a mistake, but mistakes are invitable and avoiding them is futile. When you surpass your fear of making mistakes and build resilience to the pain that may come from failure, you will be unstoppable. One way to deal with anxieties about messing up is to make a list of all the possible things that could go wrong. This can help create some distance between ideations and reality. It also allows you to logically process possible outcomes and provide solutions. If it feels as though you can’t handle the outcomes on your own, you can the ask someone supportive and reliable for help. It’s fine to wants to make a good ompression on others, in the end, the reaseon why we all care so much about others is because of our survival instinct. After all, our happiness and quality of life depends on the quality of our relationships. We want to be in their good books so that we can develop and nurture our relationships with them. But learning to dial down that inner self-conscious voice also is important. It allows you to create space for thngs that matter, and can help youlead a happy and fulfilled life. We hope we were able to give you a little insight into some of the ways that can help you to stop putting to much stock into other’s opinions of you.