Have you ever get a problem? Did you ever have to take a decision in a second? Of course, every human ever gets into trouble. In that time we have to know what’s good and what’s not for our life. We have to be mature to decide what we going to do. Because of our characters means a lot not just for ourselves but for society. By having high ambitions along with realistic expectations. Take calculated risks, along with being prepared for the worst-case scenario. But for doing all of that you have to be mature first. Don’t let your emotion control yourself because maturity determines how society see you. Don’t let them underestimate you and your character giving a bad consequence to yourself. Maturity comes with developing and practicing disciple. Why we have to be mature? To increase ourselves to be a better human for our own benefit. So because all that reason here are some tips if you can do that you will become much more mature person, we call it as “The 4 Bad B’s”.
First, Don’t Blame It. Blaming makes you feel better but doesn’t make you a better person. “It’s not my fault” “That’s his fault” or the other can mean that you are not responsible. The heart for maturity is responsibility. When you thinking other people are responsible for your own happiness and say like “He makes me feel so happy, I can’t live without him” or for your own success like “This is not my fault, I failed in this test. That’s because of her doesn’t help me”. If you still do that, you not just giving away your responsibility but your maturity.
Second, don’t brag to anyone. Work in silence and let success be your noise. All your lies can make your society hate you and of course, will not trust you anymore. No one wants to give a chance to be a success because you already betrayed their trust. You have to be sure and confident to tell the truth. Confident about who you are and what you can do that you are worthy. They can know you have deep insecurity when you bragging. Mature people know if they are good enough for the people who are important enough in their lives. They don’t need to lying people about how good they are.
Third, bicker less. Mature people finish their problem with a discussion. They do not waste time squabbling over small matters. They know how to fix their problems efficiently. When 2 mature people have a misunderstanding they will discuss to find the best solution to a problem not to destroy one another.
The last thing, don’t be a bitch. Bitching that we mean here are complaining on steroid. Mature people know bitching cant change anything. It’s better if they doing something to find the best solution. They will use their valuable time and energy for more important and efficient things. Because the more time you do complain, the less time you do create something. So the more time you spend bitching, the less time you have to be mature. When bitching becomes a habit that’s will make your life hard and vice versa, when mature become habits that are, will make your life easier.
So that’s all 4 bad B’s that you need to avoid if you want to be more mature. All of that didn’t happen easily if we didn’t try. That’s all for our own benefit to be a better person.
Devita Is Yuliana & Regitha Alfazri
XII MIPA 7